Paul Gilbert

Paul Gilbert  http://j.mp/VIbSXh

What does compassion and self-compassion mean?

• Paul Gilbert

  • peoples inner voice was cold and hostile.

    1. 1. asked them to Imagine a kind warm voice

       2. didn't seem to work well.

       3. 
          

  • Started getting interested in Buddhism 

  • Did a lot of different practices. drama, etc.

  • how to get an affiliative feeling for the self.

    1. 1. affiliative : relating to the formation of social and emotional bonds with others or to the desire to create such bonds.  

Definition: 

• • 1. 2. caring behavior, 

  • affiliative emotion - kindness, supportive,

  • got into attachment theory

  • mammalian caring behavior - mother caring for the child

  • calms and sooths the child and teacher emotional regulation

  • secure based for going out into the world

  • Want to activate that process in people with  (CFT)

  • the root is to feel "affiliative feeling"

  • if we feel distressed we turn to relationships. 

Kristin Neff  

• an experience of openheartedness

Christopher Germer

• the experience of suffering and wanting to alleviate it.

• an experience of openheartedness in the presence of pain

• a capacity and skill to be with pain

• having loving kindness