Empathy
”It is now understood to mean both the effortful, cognitive process by which a person projects themself into another’s situation and point of view, and to the unconscious (and at times unwelcome) affective process by which another person’s emotions can influence or even take over one’s own” https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/ng-interactive/2025/apr/08/empathy-sin-christian-right-musk-trump
this is why I’m working on the defining empathy project since these definitions add to the confusion and I want to be able to help clarify the definition.
you can see the definition basic here.
https://www.empathysummit.com/dates/apr-5-2025-empathy-circles/edwin-rutsch
1. “person projects themselves into another’s situation”
this is actually a block to empathy.
How does this look in the empathy circle?
It would be the active listener shares their own idea of what the person is saying instead of reflecting back what they hear.
2. “affective process by which another person’s emotions can influence or even take over one’s own”
This can also be a block to empathy. It is often called emotional contagion or state matching. It can also be reacting to what the speaker is saying.
How does this look in the empathy circle?
The speaker is angry and the Active Listener becomes angry instead of reflecting back the speakers anger and seeing what is behind it. Or they have a reaction of fear and run away instead of reflecting back the speaker.
IE: “ I hear you are feeling angry?”
Jodie and I want to make a defining empathy workshop to address and clarify these issues.
I asked AI to give an analysis of the email I just sent you all..
Gemini AI response.
“Okay, thank you for sharing the quote and your insightful analysis, particularly connecting it to the practice of Empathy Circles. Your project to clarify the definition of empathy sounds very valuable, as the term is indeed used in ways that can be confusing or even contradictory, especially when discussing specific methodologies like Empathy Circles.
Let's break down your points based on the framework you're using, which seems aligned with the principles often emphasized in Empathy Circles (like those facilitated by Edwin Rutsch):
"Person projects themselves into another’s situation" as a Block:
Your Analysis: You are absolutely correct from the perspective of the active listening component within an Empathy Circle. The core practice for the listener is to reflect what they are hearing from the speaker, aiming for accuracy and understanding of the speaker's experience, not introducing their own interpretations, assumptions, or solutions based on projecting themselves into the situation.
How it looks in the Empathy Circle: Your example is spot on. If the speaker shares an experience, and the listener responds with, "Oh, if that were me, I would have felt X," or "So, basically, you're saying Y" (where Y is the listener's interpretation or summary based on their own viewpoint, not a reflection), they are projecting rather than reflecting. This indeed blocks the speaker from feeling fully heard and understood on their own terms and prevents the listener from accurately grasping the speaker's unique perspective and feelings. The goal is reflective listening ("I hear you saying...", "You're feeling...") not interpretive projection.
"Affective process... another person’s emotions can influence or even take over one’s own" as a Block:
Your Analysis: Again, within the context of facilitating or participating effectively in an Empathy Circle, this is a crucial distinction. While feeling some resonance with the speaker's emotions might occur (sometimes called affective empathy or resonance), letting those emotions take over the listener (emotional contagion) or trigger a strong personal reaction hinders the process. The listener's role is to create a safe space for the speaker by receiving and reflecting their emotions, not to become overwhelmed by them or react from them.
How it looks in the Empathy Circle: Your examples illustrate this perfectly.
Contagion: The speaker expresses intense anger, and the listener also becomes visibly angry, mirroring the state without reflecting it consciously. Their focus shifts from understanding the speaker's anger to experiencing their own.
Reaction: The speaker expresses anger, and the listener feels threatened or defensive and either shuts down, argues, or, as you say, metaphorically (or perhaps even literally in extreme cases) wants to "run away."
The Empathic Alternative: Instead, as you correctly point out, the effective listener in an Empathy Circle would remain relatively centered and reflect the feeling: "I hear how angry you are feeling about that," or "It sounds like that situation made you furious." This acknowledges and validates the speaker's emotion without the listener getting hijacked by it, allowing the speaker to explore it further.
Conclusion:
Your analysis accurately identifies how these common descriptions of "empathy" (projection and affective contagion/state matching) can function as significant blocks to the specific type of empathic communication fostered in an Empathy Circle, which prioritizes accurate reflective listening and maintaining a centered presence as a listener.
Your "Defining Empathy Project" is highlighting a critical point: the practice of empathy, especially in structured dialogues like Empathy Circles, requires skills (like reflection and emotional self-regulation) that differentiate it from simply imagining oneself in another's place or being emotionally swamped by their feelings. Clarifying these distinctions is essential for teaching and practicing effective empathic communication.”
Audio/Article: How empathy came to be seen as a weakness in conservative circles
March 22, 20258:05 AM ET
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Defines empathy as
People tend to think of empathy or caring about other people's feelings as a good thing,
ELON MUSK: There's so much empathy that you actually suicide yourself.
Empathy is dangerous. Empathy is toxic. Empathy will align you with hell.
David French: the head (logic) and the heart (emotion). head has to overrule the heart sometimes.
NOTES: unclear definitions.They do mention pain.. so one aspect is feeling others pain.
✅ Therapy & Counseling – Used in person-centered therapy, where therapists offer unconditional positive regard, genuineness, and deep empathy.
✅ Conflict Resolution & Mediation – Helps de-escalate tensions by validating emotions and creating mutual understanding.
✅ Leadership & Workplace Communication – Encourages empathetic listening in leadership, fostering trust, collaboration, and motivation in teams.
✅ Education & Parenting – Helps educators and parents connect with children’s experiences to support emotional development.
✅ Reduces conflicts by fostering open, non-defensive conversations.
✅ Increases emotional intimacy by making people feel truly heard.
✅ Builds trust by creating a safe space for vulnerability.
Definitional Problems
empathy has had a wide range of (sometimes conflicting) definitions among both researchers and laypeople.
Empathy is a fundamental human capacity that shapes our social interactions, relationships, and moral development. It allows us to connect with others on a deeper level by understanding and sharing their emotional experiences. Despite its importance in human connection, empathy remains a complex concept with multiple definitions and interpretations across different fields of study.
This comprehensive guide explores the various definitions of empathy, its historical development, psychological dimensions, and practical applications. By examining empathy from multiple perspectives, we can gain a richer understanding of this essential human capacity and its role in our lives.
The English word "empathy" has a relatively recent origin in psychological literature, though the concept it describes has been discussed in various forms throughout human history. The term was introduced to the English language in 1909 by psychologist Edward B. Titchener, who translated the German word "Einfühlung" (meaning "feeling into").
The German aesthetician Theodor Lipps had adapted "Einfühlung" from aesthetics to psychology in 1903. Originally, this term described the projection of human feelings onto objects of art or nature, allowing viewers to experience a sense of unity with what they observed.
The root of the word comes from Ancient Greek "ἐμπάθεια" (empatheia, meaning "physical affection or passion"), derived from "ἐν" (en, "in, at") and "πάθος" (pathos, "passion" or "suffering"). Interestingly, in modern Greek, "εμπάθεια" can have negative connotations such as prejudice, malevolence, or hatred, highlighting how concepts evolve across languages and cultures.
When first introduced, empathy was not primarily about feeling another person's emotions as we commonly understand it today. Instead, early conceptions focused on projecting one's own feelings onto external objects or the world. The shift toward understanding empathy as the ability to comprehend and share others' emotional states developed gradually through psychological research and theory.
Merriam-Webster offers two primary definitions of empathy:
"The action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another."
"The act of imagining one's ideas, feelings, or attitudes as fully inhabiting something observed (such as a work of art or natural occurrence): the imaginative projection of a subjective state into an object so that the object appears to be infused with it."
These definitions capture both the interpersonal dimension of empathy (understanding others) and its aesthetic dimension (projecting feelings onto objects).
Dictionary.com defines empathy as:
"The psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the emotions, thoughts, or attitudes of another."
"The imaginative ascribing to an object, as a natural object or work of art, feelings or attitudes present in oneself."
The site emphasizes that empathy involves feeling or attempting to feel and understand exactly what it's like to be "in someone else's shoes," distinguishing it from merely feeling sorry for someone.
The Cambridge English Dictionary offers a concise definition:
"The ability to share someone else's feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in that person's situation."
This definition highlights the imaginative aspect of empathy—mentally placing oneself in another's position to understand their perspective and emotional state.
In psychology, empathy is broadly understood as the cognitive and emotional reactions of an individual to the observed experiences of another. It enables us to form bonds with other people and increases the likelihood of helping behaviors and compassion.
Psychological research has identified several distinct types of empathy:
1. Affective/Emotional Empathy
Affective empathy refers to the ability to respond with an appropriate emotion to another's mental states. It involves being affected by another's emotional state through a process called emotional contagion. Components include:
Feeling the same emotion as another person
Personal distress: experiencing distress in response to perceiving another's plight
Empathic concern: feeling compassion and sympathy for others in response to their suffering
2. Cognitive Empathy
Cognitive empathy involves understanding another person's mental state or perspective without necessarily sharing their emotions. Also known as empathic accuracy, it requires "having complete and accurate knowledge about the contents of another person's mind, including how the person feels." This type of empathy is more like a skill that humans develop to recognize and understand others' emotional states.
Related concepts include social cognition, perspective-taking, theory of mind, and mentalizing.
3. Somatic Empathy
Somatic empathy involves having physical reactions in response to what someone else is experiencing. For example, when you see someone feeling embarrassed, you might start to blush or have an upset stomach yourself. This bodily response represents a direct, physiological form of empathy.
4. Spiritual Empathy
Though less clearly defined in the literature, spiritual empathy is sometimes referenced as a deeper form of connection that transcends ordinary understanding and may involve a sense of shared humanity or universal consciousness.
Several models explain how empathy develops:
Hoffman's Four Developmental Stages
Global empathy or 'emotion contagion': where one person's emotion automatically evokes the same emotional reaction in another
Attention to others' feelings: where the observer is aware of another person's feelings but doesn't mirror them
Prosocial actions: where the observer behaves in a way to comfort the other person
Empathy for another's life condition: where the observer feels empathy toward someone's broader life situation
Fletcher-Watson and Bird's Four-Step Process
According to this model, empathy results from a four-step process:
Noticing/observing someone's emotional state
Correctly interpreting that emotional state
'Feeling' the same emotion
Responding to the emotion
If any of these steps fail, true empathy is not achieved.
Decety and Cowell's Multiple Processes
This model posits that empathy arises from multiple interacting processes:
Emotional: The ability to share someone else's feelings
Motivational: The need to respond to someone else's feelings
Cognitive: The ability to take someone else's viewpoint
The Empathy Quotient (EQ) is a standardized measurement of empathy, similar to how IQ measures intelligence. Higher scores represent greater empathic abilities. Research has established a score of 30 as a critical threshold, with scores below this level often associated with conditions like Asperger syndrome that involve difficulties with social interaction.
Understanding empathy requires distinguishing it from several related but distinct concepts:
While these terms are sometimes used interchangeably, they represent different emotional responses:
Empathy involves understanding another person's experience by imagining oneself in their situation, maintaining a distinction between self and other while sharing in their emotional experience.
Sympathy involves being moved by or responding in tune with another person's situation without necessarily experiencing their emotions. It's more about feeling concern or pity for someone rather than sharing their emotional state.
Empathy refers to the active sharing in the emotional experience of another person.
Compassion builds on empathy by adding a desire to alleviate the person's distress. While empathy involves understanding and feeling with someone, compassion motivates action to help them.
Empathy focuses on the ability to share and understand someone else's emotions and perspectives.
Emotional Intelligence is broader, encompassing the ability to understand, interpret, and manage both other people's emotions and your own. Self-awareness and self-regulation are key components of emotional intelligence that extend beyond empathy.
Pity: Feeling sorry for someone who might be in trouble or need help, often with a sense of superiority
Emotional contagion: Automatically "catching" the emotions that others are showing without necessarily recognizing this is happening
Alexithymia: A deficiency in understanding, processing, or describing one's own emotions (unlike empathy which is about someone else's emotions)
Two major theories attempt to explain the psychological mechanisms behind empathy:
Simulation Theory proposes that empathy occurs because when we see another person experiencing an emotion, we internally 'simulate' or represent that same emotion in ourselves. This gives us firsthand knowledge of what the other person feels.
This theory is supported by neuroscientific evidence of "mirror neurons" that fire both when we perform an action and when we observe someone else performing the same action. Parts of the brain in the medial prefrontal cortex show overlapping activation for both self-focused and other-focused thoughts and judgments.
Theory of Mind suggests that humans understand others' mental states by developing theories about how people think and feel based on rules for how one should think or feel in various situations. This theory emphasizes cognitive processes rather than emotional mirroring.
Most researchers now believe that empathy likely involves multiple processes that incorporate both automatic, emotional responses and learned conceptual reasoning, with different contexts triggering different empathetic responses.
Empathy serves numerous important functions in human life:
Strengthens relationships by building social connections and trust
Helps regulate emotions by providing context and perspective
Promotes helping behaviors and prosocial actions
Reduces conflict in relationships through better understanding
Increases capacity for forgiveness
Forms bonds with other people across diverse backgrounds
Enables understanding of jokes and sarcasm and other complex social communications
Facilitates social functioning, with highly empathic people reporting larger social circles and more satisfying relationships
Despite its many benefits, empathy can have drawbacks:
Empathy fatigue/compassion fatigue: Emotional and physical exhaustion from repeatedly being exposed to others' suffering
Emotional exhaustion when empathy is overused without proper self-care
Impaired judgment when strong empathic responses override rational decision-making
Emotional negativity if not balanced with appropriate boundaries
Empathy plays a crucial role in mental health. Those with high levels of empathy typically function well in society, while lack of empathy is associated with conditions like antisocial personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.
For mental health professionals, empathy is an essential therapeutic tool. Therapists who are highly empathetic can help clients process past experiences and gain greater understanding of both their experiences and associated feelings. The therapeutic relationship itself, built on empathic understanding, can be healing.
Healthcare providers who demonstrate empathy tend to have better patient outcomes and satisfaction. However, healthcare workers must balance empathy with appropriate boundaries to prevent compassion fatigue.
Gender: Research suggests women tend to score higher on empathy tests and may experience more cognitive empathy than men, though these findings are somewhat mixed
Genetics and environment: Both play important roles in shaping empathic abilities
Stability across lifespan: People tend to maintain similar levels of empathy throughout their lives, with no significant age-related decline
Several factors influence when and how we experience empathy:
How we perceive the other person (as similar or different from ourselves)
How we attribute the other individual's behaviors (as within or beyond their control)
What we blame for the other person's predicament
Our past experiences and expectations
Empathy appears to have both evolutionary and developmental roots. Elementary forms have been observed in primates and other mammals, suggesting an evolutionary advantage. In humans, empathy begins to emerge during the second and third years of life.
While we have a natural predisposition to develop empathy, social and cultural factors strongly influence its expression. Empathy develops over time through social interactions and can be enhanced through various practices:
Active listening without judgment or interruption
Perspective-taking exercises that encourage imagining others' experiences
Exposure to diverse people and stories that broaden understanding
Mindfulness practices that increase awareness of emotions
Service activities that connect people with others' needs
Research supports that empathy can be improved through intentional practice and appropriate interventions.
Empathy is a multifaceted capacity that encompasses emotional sharing, cognitive understanding, and motivational components. It allows us to connect with others in meaningful ways and forms the foundation for compassionate action and moral behavior.
By understanding the various definitions and dimensions of empathy, we can better appreciate its role in human experience and work to cultivate this essential capacity in ourselves and others. Whether viewed through the lens of psychology, philosophy, or everyday human interaction, empathy remains one of our most valuable tools for building a more connected and caring world.
This comprehensive guide draws on definitions and research from multiple authoritative sources, including:
Merriam-Webster Dictionary
Dictionary.com
Cambridge English Dictionary
Wikipedia
Verywell Mind
Lesley University (Psychology of Emotional and Cognitive Empathy)
Positive Psychology
Various psychological research studies cited within these sources
Each source contributes unique perspectives on empathy, helping to create a more complete understanding of this complex human capacity.